The authors of our book write, “Probably the most important tool available for managing hyperstressful and distressful events is our thought process. How we think about matters affects the way we perceive the events we experience.”
Through the ups and downs of life, I have found this to be very true. Life throws challenges at us that are totally unexpected. Sometimes these challenges are life-changing. I’ve had a couple of these life-changing events that have caused nervous breakdowns, divorce, you-name-it, in other people. I have been asked many times how I cope so well. It’s all in the way I look at things, in other words, my thought processes and my attitude.
Of course I have my moments when I think, “why me, why our family?” when all I want to do is yell and scream and cry, but I know that doesn’t accomplish anything so I immediately go about finding out everything I can about the situation and all the possible things I might be able to do to improve the situation, and then I do all in my power to make the situation better for me and everyone else who is involved.