This was a hard question for me to answer. Normally, if I lose my trust in someone because of an action of the other person, my trust in the other person is gone for good. The only time I find myself having trust again is if extenuating circumstance explain adequately to me whatever it is the other person did that led me to decide not to trust them.
An example of this would be way back in grammar school. I trusted my seventh grade teacher, Sister Eric, until I got A’s and B’s and two C’s on a report card, but a “U” in in effort. She explained to my dad and me that I was capable of all A’s with a little effort.
During the rest of that school year, and for many years after that, I distrusted Sister Eric. I lacked confidence in her and took whatever she said during the rest of the school year with a grain of salt, questioning it. It’s only years later when I looked back that I realized she had my best interests at heart because she saw through me and realized what I could accomplish if I only tried. Thanks to her and my dad’s reaction to her action and comment, which resulted in his insistence that I live up to my potential, I have ever since given my full effort toward whatever I have undertaken, whether it be school work, job , family, etc. So if I were to meet her today, I would once again trust her, and actually thank her!
Wow! Actually you should be greatful to your teacher for all the time raising your bar, to get better results than before. And I know we really tend to dislike these kinds of teachers all along, who push us hard, but later on we realize how important it was to make us work harder. In fact I raise my own bar every time someone challenges me for that extra yard of run because that way you get to know how good you can be. Your distrust in Sister Eric actually made you perform extra better to prove her wrong. So now this is an opportunity, when you should thank her.
ReplyDeleteI like how your story ended on a positive note. I am very much like you, once you lose my trust there's no going back. There have been a few exceptions, but for the most part I have a hard time forgiving people who are not trustworthy. It is awesome that you are able to look back and appreciate what your teacher had done. I had a math teacher in the 4th grade that used to make me cry in class every day, for no apparent reason. I had an A- in that class and was a very hard working student but for some reason, she liked to pick on me in front of the other students. After my extremely angry mother ended up having a meeting with her and the principle, the teacher was overly nice to me. She even added me on facebook two years ago! Unfortunately, I still do not see the good in her actions.
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